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October 1, 2024

How to Set Technology Boundaries

ThedaCare Nurse Practitioner Offers Tips for Positive Technology Use

Technology is all around us – it is nearly impossible to escape. This might lead to a desire to reduce technology use. Maybe you’ve noticed an irresistible urge to check your phone every five minutes. Perhaps you want to set a better example for your kids. Or you realize that negative news is bringing you down.

Regardless of what your reason is to limit technology, it’s a worthwhile goal. Experts also say setting boundaries around technology can lead to improved well-being.

Upsides of Technology

It helps to first understand that technology has some undeniable benefits. When used in moderation, it can be a great tool.

“Technology helps us learn new things and allows us to stay connected with family and friends worldwide,” said Jessica Schnell, a Nurse Practitioner with ThedaCare Behavioral Health. “It also provides convenience, such as paying our bills and managing our finances at our fingertips.”

Social media can help you connect to and network with people with similar interests. It also can create a sense of community in difficult times, such as the COVID-19 pandemic, Schnell noted.

Health Impacts

“It is important to remember it is possible to have too much of a good thing,” Schnell said. “Spending too much time using technology or on social media can impact our physical and mental health.”

On the physical side, too much screen time can lead to sleep deprivation, eyestrain, headaches, neck pain and even hand and wrist discomfort. If it keeps you from physical activity, it also can lead to weight gain and other health issues that come with a sedentary lifestyle.

From a mental wellness standpoint, technology overuse may cause anxiety, dependence, and even social isolation.

“Studies have shown that too much time on social media leads to decreased self-esteem and an increased risk in developing mental health conditions,” Schnell said.

Beyond that, technology can support other harmful habits, such as striving for unattainable beauty standards and spending money on items you don’t need.

Constraining Connection

As mentioned, technology and social media can help maintain and foster relationships. On the flipside, it also can hamper true connection.

“Technology allows us to build connections with others without having to leave the comfort of our homes,” Schnell explained. “However, this can make it more difficult to develop the social skills needed to develop true connections with others in a face-to-face setting.”

Fixating on technology can lead to distraction in situations that call for in-person communications. Think of those times you may have lost focus on the person sitting in front of you while staring at your smartphone.

In addition, becoming too immersed in social media can lead to a skewed sense of reality, Schnell said.

“A person’s online persona may not reflect their true self,” she said. “This can lead to misunderstandings of those we’re connecting with. Social media is a highlight reel. People often don’t share their problems or messes. They share their good and happy times, which can lead to others feeling inadequate.”

Pinpointing a Problem

Several signs can indicate a person may have a problem with overdependence on technology. Some of these include:

  • Neglecting responsibilities at home, work or school
  • Feeling irritable or negative when you’re away from your devices
  • Struggling to take time away from devices for extended periods of time
  • Losing your sense of time, such as realizing that you’ve lost an hour of your day scrolling
  • Harming your relationships through distracted behavior while using technology
  • Using technology as a way to avoid working through difficult feelings or addressing problems
  • Becoming preoccupied with monitoring your social media presence
  • Developing problematic habits, such as excessive online shopping

Building Boundaries

“As with anything, it’s a good idea to limit and set boundaries around time on devices – for you and your loved ones,” Schnell said. “Experts recommend that adults spend two hours or less per day on technology outside of work.”

Try these steps:

  • Turn off non-essential notifications on your phone and other devices
  • Set rules for yourself and your family — e.g. no screen time at the dinner table or within an hour before bedtime
  • Place your phone in another room
  • Set aside tech-free time periods throughout your day
  • Designate and stick to certain times of day to check email and social media
  • Consider an app to help you become aware of and manage your technology use

If you’re struggling to break free of technology dependence on your own, it may be time to seek mental health help. Your primary care provider can help you connect to care.

“Similar to drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, and many other temptations, it’s possible to become addicted to technology use,” Schnell said. “A mental health professional can help you work through your concerns and identify solutions to help find a balance and well-being.”